November 14, 2017




Every summer I am able to take a team out to overseas mission trips and thus spend several months in preparation beforehand. Without fail, I tell the team from the beginning to “turn it on” now because the temptation is to give half effort during training due to the fact that there is a belief one can give everything they got once they are on the field. FALSE!


The reality that I have seen happen too many times than I would like is that people give half effort during training and fail to even show up on the field. This not only leads to a sub-par mission experience but the people that we serve actually become burdened rather than blessed  by our presence!


Let’s get it straight, you don’t simply turn it on you must train yourself to turn it but keep it on throughout. Today’s passage talks about marriage and the roles of husbands and wives. The people that are not married would be tempted to skip this post because it does not seem to be applicable to them but the reality is that one does not become husband or wifey material once the ring gets on but that it is something that you must train to be now! If we wait to become excellent husbands or wives later we will not only be in for a rude awakening but disappoint our spouses and even ourselves in the process. Let us commit to the process of being people who take the necessary steps of being the people we want to be in the future now by learning how to love and treat the people around us with honor and respect.




  1. It starts with mutual submission

    1. “Submitting to one another out of reverence for Christ.”

      • This was the verse right before our passage of the day. Paul was exhorting the Ephesians to practice the art of submitting to one another as an act of honor unto the Lord. What does that mean? It doesn’t mean that you bend to every wish of the people around you because you’re not a slave and it doesn’t help when you submit to someone else’s offer of sin. What it means to submit to one another starts with a consideration of the well-being of another over your present circumstance. You begin to think about how your actions or lack of action may affect others and consider what it means to serve another person. A lot of times this plays out when you follow a leader and or pastor but this is also in the realm of friendships as well. Can you give up the right to be right all the time for the sake of friendship? Can you put aside your desire to meet the desire of your friend who may be in a difficult season? Do you keep yourself accountable to your words and also the words of the other person because if submission to someone else is serving them, at times the best way you can serve them is when you in love rebuke them. As always for any healthy relationship to work, both people best be on board to serve one another!

  2. You must break off survival mentality

    1. “Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord...In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.”

      • One of them most crippling thing to any relationship is when one or both members of the relationship have a survival mentality. They say that a wild animal is the most dangerous when cornered because at that moment the wild animal’s concern is survival and will do whatever it takes to achieve that. Human’s have a similar mechanism built into their minds where if we see that our way of living or existence is threatened, we can begin to go into survival mode that effectively shuts off our ability to think about the well-being of another. In a relationship, a person goes into survival mode when they feel that their needs cannot be met and must seek to have those needs met at whatever cost necessary. It does not matter how it is met but that it is met and when that happens, you can throw out through the window mutual submission and any type of sacrificial love. So how do we break off survival mentality; learn to be satisfied in God! Only when we are satisfied fully in God can we begin to love sacrificially like God. To come into a relationship without a relationship with God will set yourself up for a lot of heartache and unrealistic expectations because when we are in Christ fully can we thrive fully to the point of giving fully.

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